Building Your House

Last night on the Wives On Purpose prayer call, our scripture was Proverbs 14:1. The New King James Version reads: The wise woman builds her house, But the foolish pulls it down with her own hands.

I got to thinking about building my house, about building my marriage. A long time ago my marriage was a nice design idea in my head. I planned my wedding and signed the contract to begin work. I was married in the Church and joined by God. I had indeed entered the marriage covenant and begun living my life as life’s construction crew surveyed, dug, poured, and measured. Brick after brick was laid to make my marriage house. I loved and admired the finished product. I was sure that when the rains came down and the floods came up that my marriage would stand. Why, because we were founded on the Rock!

What I failed to realize is that sometimes in a fierce and violent storm, all that we see is wiped away. The only thing left is the foundation. It is from there we that rebuild. A wise woman builds.

During 20 years of marriage, I have learned a few tips to help build and rebuild my marriage house.

1). I survey my property. I never assume that my marriage house is in good shape. Periodically I ask my husband questions.

• Are you comfortable in our relationship?
• Are there some things we should address?
• Are your needs still the same and are they being met?

2). When I see a tear, some peeling, or just something broken, I immediately call in for repair. Jesus is the best worker I know. I put him on speed dial and tell Him exactly what is wrong.

• I pray no matter where I am or what I am doing.
• I stop and pray.

3). I have learned that I get what I pay for. Building a house costs time and money, building a marriage costs too.
• I pay with patience. Marriage is until death.
• I pay when bad weather stops all progress.
• I pay for top quality materials. Only the best books, devotionals, marriage conferences, etc. will do for my marriage mansion.

I want to build my marriage house. I know that occasionally it needs upgrades and sometimes entire rooms need to be renovated. I keep my eyes and ears open to the Lord so when it he says it’s building time… I can say Yes, Lord… Let it be done to me according to your word!
If you are in a time of building do not fear. Understand that you are a wise woman!

Lisa